10 Ways to Handle Admissions Tension
No matter how hard you try to take a break from the college admissions process, it may seem to follow you everywhere.
Don't be surprised if every member of your family experiences some tension about course grades, standardized test results, application choices, the wait for admissions decisions or visas. This is especially true if you applied early decision or early action and were not admitted. Receiving any letters of rejection, or even a deferral, may make you feel more anxious during the wait. It may feel difficult to stay in a positive frame of mind.
Do your best to remain upbeat. Often an early decision school is the one that is fiercely competitive for even the most accomplished students. You may still be admitted. Therefore, try to keep a positive attitude and be sure to apply to a wide cross-section of schools.
The more you and your family are involved in fun and useful activities, the less influence others can have on your emotions. Give some thought to what you and each family member finds most relaxing and make sure you take the time to do at least some of these activities.
Here are 10 ideas for reducing admissions-related stress:
- Exercise – which can include taking regular walks
- Take a warm shower or bubble bath
- Treat yourself to something you enjoy – it can even be a food treat, like an ice cream cone
- Listen to your favorite music, and attend a live performance if you can
- Read a good book
- Call up (not text or email) a friend you haven't spoken to in a while
- Go out of town for a quick getaway
- Stay in town and do something you haven't done in a long time – go to a museum or a nearby park
- See a movie
- Listen to some soothing music, especially before going to sleep
Ironically, students are often better able to keep the university search in perspective than their relatives. Parents who are focused on making sure their own egos aren't bruised are less available to help students through the positive aspects of making a good educational choice.
When people feel in control, they almost always feel better about their position. So, take control of the admissions process and work hard to put together the best applications you can – and then relax and go for a walk!
